Posted by: interwebwords | September 9, 2008

Do You Really Let Nature Take its Course?

You really have two choices. You can let Nature take its course or you can take charge of your romantic love life. You may have already been letting Nature control you. That is, you make yourself as attractive as possible, you have a mental checklist of qualities in a partner that you are looking for and then you meet someone and start to find out more about them. Be honest though, if you’ve ever worn lipstick then you’re not really letting Nature take its course, are you?

Posted by: interwebwords | September 12, 2008

The Loveworks Plan Works!

Now, think carefully about these questions and then answer them as honestly as possible:

1.    Something I learned about relationships from my mother…

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2.    Something I learned about relationships from my father…

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3.    Something I learned about relationships from my best friend…

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Keep what you have written down, because at the end of this course I want you to be able to look back at them and understand the progress that you’ve made.

Okay. Reality check! Let me tell you what I’ll do for you. That is, what my promise is for you. As your coach and tutor, I will work with you to give you a significant advantage in your romantic love life so that you have the edge over every other woman who is competing with you, even the ones who seem to have a natural ability to attract men. Let me explain just how we’ll do this. These are in no particular order as they are all equally important:
First, I will have complete faith and confidence in you, believing in you totally. I will prove this by taking seriously any and all of your goals and desires. I won’t make any judgements about what it is you want to achieve.
Second, I will constantly encourage you to believe in yourself so that you can realize your ambitions. Through this process you will gain real knowledge and tools that will enhance your confidence and self-belief. Remember, these techniques work, and they work very effectively. It works…
Third, I will work with you to develop a plan of action so that you will be able to attain your goals and I will keep you on course to achieve them.
Imagine that you have finished the program and someone who knows you well has noticed significant change in you. I’d like you to write down five ways that the person would describe your transformation Imagine that you have finished the program and someone who knows you well has noticed significant change in you. I’d like you to write down five ways that the person would describe your transformation.

1.__________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________

4.__________________________________________________

5.__________________________________________________

What you have written down is what you are planning to achieve in your life and, working together, we can achieve them. Another important element of this program is that you’ll be expected to do coursework. This consists of specific exercises that you do after each chapter. It should take you about an hour or less to complete them each week.
Your personal course includes the mini-confidence makeover so that we start with a clean slate, the Intimate Communication module, the Love Chemistry module and a Personal Partner Search Plan. Then we’ll put it all together to achieve those goals that you’ve written down in the last exercise you did.

Posted by: interwebwords | September 11, 2008

The Loveworks Plan

Now, write down five things you have always wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to doing yet. Don’t think about it too much. It doesn’t matter if they seem impossible. Just see what you come up with. When you have finished writing them down, put the two things that are stopping you in the blank lines beneath each item you’ve written down.

Write down five things you have always wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to doing yet. Don’t think about it too much. It doesn’t matter if they seem impossible. Just see what you come up with.
When you have finished writing them down, put the two things that are stopping you in the blank lines beneath each thing you’ve written down.

1.    _________________________________________________

(a)_________________________________________________

(b)_________________________________________________

2.    _________________________________________________

(a)_________________________________________________

(b)_________________________________________________

3.    _________________________________________________

(a)_________________________________________________

(b)_________________________________________________

4.    _________________________________________________

(a)_________________________________________________

(b)_________________________________________________

5.    _________________________________________________

(a)_________________________________________________

(b)_________________________________________________

Posted by: interwebwords | September 10, 2008

Clear, Timely and Manageable

The mating game has been going on for hundreds of thousands of years and our brains are hard-wired to achieve success. And success is very important. Some say It is the most important thing there is in life after personal survival. Failure is painful on many different levels. You have much to gain or much to lose. However, to achieve success in the Mating Game you need to work through a process, and you need to do it in the correct sequence.
To begin with, for this course, you need a mini-confidence makeover. You need to start with a clean slate and unlearn some of the bad habits and forget some of the poor advice you’ve received over the years from well-meaning friends and acquaintances. These will be replaced by an unshakeable belief that you can obtain your goals that will come from the inside and flow into your life. Then you need to learn the skills of intimate communication.
Simply put, when a couple is in love they communicate on an intimate level. Each seems to know what the other person is thinking before he or she says it. They seem to be able to tap into a deeper level of language understanding, and they can. There is a fast track to achieving that kind of rapport and what you’ll learn in this course is just how to do that with any man (or woman). Then you’ll be able to quickly communicate on a deep and intimate level with your new partner. Next you’ll learn about the Chemistry of Love. You’ll understand just which chemicals are involved in the process of falling in love and you’ll gain skills to trigger their actions and then maintain your partner’s natural chemicals, keeping them at optimum levels. You’ll also learn how to use specific foods, many of them quite common, which contain these natural chemicals to enhance the effect. In other words, I’ll teach you how to get a further advantage, in a “natural” way.
Then we’ll develop a personal search plan to find your ideal partner. And finally we’ll put everything together so that you have the skills to create a deep bond with that partner and to achieve the goal that you are seeking. It’s a simple, proven process. If you follow the plan exactly, then together we will achieve your goals. In other words, it works!
Now, I’d like you to write something down, which will be the beginning of achieving those goals.

C    _____________

T    _____________

M    _____________

The easiest way to remember this is with a memory aid or mnemonic: The mnemonic is Cleanser, Toner, Moisturiser, but the words I want you to write down are Clear, Timely, and Manageable. So, next to C write cleanser, next to T write timely and next to M write manageable.
Cleanser, Toner, Moisturizer = Clear, Timely, Manageable.
And that’s exactly how you will achieve your goals. Each goal you set yourself must be clear, so that you know what it is you want to achieve. It must be timely so that you can achieve it within a specific timeframe. And it must be manageable so that you can manage the scope and change that will occur in your life.

Posted by: interwebwords | September 3, 2008

Even More Surprising

What that last exercise shows is that there is a powerful connection between the way that the mind affects the body and the body affects the mind, revealing the power that simple words can have over the body when filtered through your mind.
It also shows that chemicals within the body can be triggered by actions or just words alone. In this case, the main chemical that you released was adrenaline, the fight or flight hormone, which is similar to noradrenaline, one of the main “love chemicals”. And you had absolutely no control over that, didn’t you?
It also shows the power of visualization because your brain processes imaginary events in exactly the same way as it processes real events. We will cover these in depth later, but the next thing we need to do is set some goals, because with clear goals you can achieve amazing things.

Coming up next…

►Communicating on an intimate level.
►Achieving goals.
►Making a commitment.

Posted by: interwebwords | September 2, 2008

This May Surprise You

Right now I want you to read out loud the following.  It’s a simple text that uses ordinary, everyday words that are used in normal conversation. Are you ready? Go for it. Just read it aloud in a slow, peaceful sort of way. You will learn something surprising if you do!

“Imagine that you are enjoying a day driving in the countryside. You can see those cute little cows that you’ve always liked. There’s a paddock full of them. It’s a perfect day. You feel at ease. The window is down and the breeze is cooling your skin. It is the kind of landscape that you enjoy driving through. As you imagine the view, try to feel the steering wheel in your hands and the pressure of your body against the seat. Visualise the interior of the car. You briefly take your eyes off the road and look at the instruments, glance in the rear view mirror. The road ahead is long and straight with no traffic. You are enjoying the drive. Try to visualize yourself in this scene. You glance down at the instruments again. You see a flash of light in the rear view mirror. Colours.
It’s the police.”

Well, I’ll bet that surprised you, didn’t it?  But how did you feel? Okay, you should know the routine by now. Write it all down or (print this out first then…) give it a range by circling one of the numbers below (you can do it in your mind if you like).

How did you feel? What did you feel physically and emotionally?

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(When 1 is Not so much)      (10 is Very much)

How much were you affected? 1.  2.  3.  4.  5.  6.  7.  8.  9.  10.

Posted by: interwebwords | September 1, 2008

More on the Power of Understanding Modalities

Interesting, isn’t it? You will have learnt from this exercise just how it is that you learn how to do things. That’s right; each of us has a preferred learning style or modality.
A visual person likes to take notes or understand through diagrams, while an aural person would rather listen to someone speaking, and a kinaesthetic person prefers to learn by doing an activity. But this exercise also lets you understand what your strengths are. Are you a strongly visual person, or an auditory person or a mixture of both? You might be strongly kinaesthetic – a doing or feeling person. Whatever you are is fine. They are just different ways of “being” in the world.
The way that you use these modalities makes you uniquely “you”. However, your potential partner also has a certain way of being in the world, which is a mix of the same types of modalities.
The way to get closest to a man is to communicate with him in a way that he can understand completely.
If you are strongly visual, you will be seeing the world in a visual way and be communicating it that way. However, if you are interested in a man who is strongly auditory, he will be literally marching to the tune of a different drummer, because he’ll be listening while you’re seeing. If you can communicate with him by using the same main modality that he uses and understands, you’ll start to communicate very effectively.
Remember, love is built on a conversation that includes body language as well as verbal (voice), aural (sound) and kinaesthetic (touch or feeling) communication. All these forms of communication are filtered through the mind and, at a certain point, the mind sends a message to the body through a complex network of hormonal, electrical, and chemical messages that makes the person fall in love, whether they want to or not.
When people talk about romantic love they often talk about “chemistry”, because that is exactly what it is, a series of chemical reactions in the body that can begin with a simple conversation.
People often fall in love with people who are very different from themselves. But you don’t have to make yourself similar to a man to get him to fall in love with you and you don’t have to subscribe to the “opposites attract” theory either, but you do need to be able to communicate in the same language and the way to do that is by understanding his unique modalities and then communicate with him using those, rather than your own unique modalities.
Let me give you an example. Imagine that you have asked a potential partner the same thing I asked you. Let’s say that his name is Paul and you met him at a party. Say, it’s the question about buying a new car. Let’s listen to Paul’s response as you read it out loud.

YOU: Say you are in the market for a new car, Paul. What would it be like?
VISUAL PAUL: Yeah, a new car. I could really see myself in something sporty. Maybe a convertible with a shiny, black roof. I think you have to get a red sports car. Everyone knows they go faster. Oh yeah, with black leather seats and that wood trim on the dash would look slick.

You can tell very easily that Paul is a visual person. He uses words like “see”, “shiny”, and “slick”. But let’s switch his main modality and turn him into an aural kind of guy. Let’s hear what the same person, using a different modality, has to say for himself. Please read the next section out loud.

YOU: Say you are in the market for a new car, Paul. What would it be like?
AURAL PAUL: Strange you should ask that question. I just heard yesterday that a new model of my favourite car has been launched, so I rang the dealer straight away. It’s got a bigger engine than the previous model and a tuned exhaust, so it makes that throaty sports car sound when you rev it out.

This time the emphasis is on sound. So what would Paul be like if he were more kinaesthetic? Read out loud to find out.

YOU: Say you are in the market for a new car, Paul. What would it be like?
KINAESTHETIC PAUL: Well I’m just driving around in an old bomb at the moment, but if I could afford a new car I wouldn’t be very fussy. I’d be happy as long as I can feel it pushing me back into the seat when I accelerate away from the lights. And when I hit the brakes I want it to stop real quickly and stay in a straight line.

But here’s something to think about. When a couple is in love they seem to “naturally” speak the same language. The reality is that they are communicating in the same way because they are using the same modalities, either by an accident of nature or because they are concentrating so much on each other’s words and actions that they are mimicking the way the other person speaks, thinks and feels and I am going to teach you how to be able to do that.

Posted by: interwebwords | August 18, 2008

TUNA & CAPER PATÉ

In a blender, put

220 gm canned tuna in olive oil, drained

juice from ½ lemon

salt & pepper to taste

¼ teaspoon Cajun seasoning

125 gm unsalted butter, softened & cubed

Blend until smooth, then
put into a bowl and stir in

50gm capers, drained, roughly chopped.

Cover & refrigerate for two hours before serving.

Serve with celery sticks or spread on carrot sticks.

Posted by: interwebwords | August 10, 2008

Another mood-changing Starter ~ CELERY STICKS WITH AGED CHEDDAR

Celery stimulates the pituitary
gland, which secretes sex
hormones into your body.

In a blender, put

 

 

¼ cup aged cheddar cheese

1 tablespoon butter

1 tablespoon chopped celery

salt & pepper to taste

½ jigger Green Chartreuse.

 

 

 

Blend until smooth, then
spread cheese paste on

 

 

finger-length celery sticks.

 

 

Tip: try to get your partner to feed you one or more of the celery sticks, as the action will stimulate his love chemistry hormones.

 

Posted by: interwebwords | August 5, 2008

Mood-changing Starter ~ CELERY STICKS & BROAD BEAN PASTE

Celery stimulates the pituitary
gland, which secretes sex
hormones into your body.

In a frying pan put

 

 

1 tablespoon olive oil

1 medium onion, finely chopped

1 clove garlic, finely chopped.

 

 

 

¼ teaspoon ground coriander

½ teaspoon ground turmeric

1 teaspoon cumin seeds

1 teaspoon mustard seeds.

 

Stir until aromatic, then put
in a blender

 

1 cup cooked broad beans

cooked spice mixture

125gm cottage cheese.

 

Blend until smooth, then
spread bean paste on

finger-length celery sticks.

 

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